I’ve lived through and written about gaslighting as well and I appreciate hearing others’ perspectives. Thanks for having the courage to share. I didn’t even know it was happening in my marriage until I had left my ex. I questioned who I was and what was wrong with me — every day for years. I was in what you refer to as “stage 3” when I finally walked away amid many threats. He had also threatened me with his own life.

It wasn’t until I saw Girl on a Train that I put the label on my experiences. It allowed me to begin to sort out my truth from the lies I’d been fed. It was hard but so worth it. The severity of gaslighting can’t be overstated. It nearly destroyed me and my family.